Frameworks

Put attachment next to other frameworks for a fuller picture.

Attachment theory is not the only lens on relationships. Placing it next to other models gives you a fuller self-portrait. Here we read attachment alongside the Enneagram, the Five Love Languages, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Gottman's "Sound Relationship House" — noting where they overlap and where they complement each other. No framework is superior; the goal is finding the angle that makes you say, "ah, that's what's happening. Read them side by side and you'll see the same pattern described in different vocabularies, which is often the moment it finally clicks. Use this section to build your own mixed toolkit rather than committing to a single school of thought. If one model resonates more than the others, start there — but keep the rest on the shelf for later. The point is insight, not allegiance."